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survival kit.

(the unsanctioned guide.)

♥ record everything.
if they even raise their voice, document it.

♥ tell someone.
send one message, one email, one file — to a trusted contact outside the home.

♥ hide copies.
keep physical evidence in a place you don’t live: a locker, a friend’s house, a safe deposit box.

♥ trust your terror.
if your body says this isn’t safe, it isn’t.

♥ trust the escalation.
it’s never a one-time thing. the line always moves.

♥ get receipts.
screenshots. voicemails. text threads. emotional abuse leaves a paper trail too.

♥ prepare exit plans early.
even if you think you’re staying. even if you’re not “ready.”
survival is not betrayal.

♥ use the system before it uses you.
restraining orders. incident reports. screenshots. texts to yourself.
police might not care today. the record will matter tomorrow.

♥ stay unpredictable.
your safety is worth more than their feelings.

♥ save yourself first.
you can mourn them later —
but you can’t mourn if you don’t make it out.

the exit strategy

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(this method is not for debate. it’s for survival.
if you’re offended, you’re not the audience.)