DARVO, motherfucker. (shit means you’re guilty af)

✨ deny.
✨ attack.
✨ reverse victim
✨ & offender.

aka: the emotional abuse playbook.
aka: what people do when
they’re deadass guilty
but still want you to look crazy.

✂️ DENY

"that’s not what happened."
"you’re overreacting."
"i didn’t mean it like that."
"you’re remembering it wrong."

oh so now you’re
an expert in my trauma timeline?
bitch,
you were the villain,
not the fucking historian.
this is the part
where they gaslight you
so fucking hard
you start apologizing
for having a memory.
they didn’t do it.
and if they did do it,
it wasn’t that bad.
and if it was that bad,
you made them.

welcome to
the olympics of brainfuckery.

🧨 ATTACK

✶ "you’re crazy."
✶ "you’re abusive, actually."
✶ "you’re manipulative."
✶ "you’re just bitter."

this is when
they go full scorched earth
on your ass
because you dared to speak.
✶ your trauma? weaponized.
✶ your anger? framed.
✶ your silence? fucking suspicious.
✶ your documentation? “obsessive.”
like no matter
what you do,
you're guilty
of responding
fucking wrong
to being harmed.

congrats.
you’re now
the defendant
in your own goddamn story
while they’re out here
roleplaying martyr of the fucking year.

🕳 REVERSE VICTIM & OFFENDER

✶ "she’s attacking me."
✶ "he’s obsessed with me."
✶ "they’re ruining my life."
✶ "i’m scared for my safety."

this is when
they go full fucking
fake tears
start a smear campaign
and call their
friends and
fucking family,
to stalk
and harass
you online.

✶ it’s giving:
“i set her on fire
but she screamed
too fucking loud
so i’m filing a complaint.”

✶ it’s giving:
“i choked her
while she was pregnant
but now i feel attacked
bc she told someone.”

it’s fucking theater.
except they’re trying
to get your life canceled
to protect their ego.

🧾 DARVO IN REAL LIFE LOOKS LIKE:

✶ you call out real abuse
✶ they pretend they never saw it
✶ then they show up in court
with printouts of your trauma diary
like it's a fucking closing argument

they bypass the fact pages.
ignore the option to
fucking submit corrections,
nah, these motherfuckers
ignore the receipts.
and go straight to the rage,
the sadness,
the fucking scars—
and try to wear
your fucking breakdown
as their defense strategy.

this is not lawyering.
this is character assassination
in a cheap ass corporate fleece.

🏛 WHEN INSTITUTIONS DO DARVO?

baby
that’s not an “oversight”
that’s a federal lawsuit
waiting to happen.

and it’s when you file reports and they:

✶ delete them
✶ ignore them
✶ retaliate against you
✶ and then say you’re the fucking provocateur.

💣 WHY THIS SHIT IS DANGEROUS AS FUCK

✶ DARVO isn’t just annoying.
✶ it’s a trauma multiplier.
✶ it retraumatizes.
✶ it silences victims.
✶ and it teaches everyone watching
that telling the truth is unsafe.

and the courts?
the media?
the institutions?
they eat that shit up
unless you know what the fuck it is
and call it by its government name:
motherfucking DARVO.

🧠 AND HERE’S HOW YOU KILL IT:

✶ name it. out loud. first and fast.
✶ document everything.
✶ don’t argue tone. argue pattern.
✶ bring in a trauma expert who knows exactly how this works.
✶ make your credibility boring as hell and your timeline lethal.
✶ treat every DARVO stunt like what it is:
evidence of ongoing abuse.

🥀 fuck you.

DARVO is not confusion.
DARVO is not “two sides.”
DARVO is a strategy used
by people who are guilty as fuck
but still want you to look unstable
because if you get believed—
they lose control.
they lose narrative.
they just fucking lose.

and baby,
they should.

💅✨