accessory after the fact: the most classic enablers of violence against women 🪦👏🏻

aka: aid, abet, pretend:
how “helping” becomes homicide-adjacent

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nah, not bystanders—
co-fucking-conspirators
you “didn’t know.”
deadass?
baby, you knew.
but hey—
it takes a fucking village
to break a woman
clout, cash, & cover:
the fucking trifecta
that gets women killed.

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damn.
breathe.

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pattern (aka how the abusive fuckery is powered)

fund the abuser → financial aiding.
ignore documented dv → reckless endangerment.
paperwork under conflict/duress → fraud + fiduciary breach.
hide him, lie for him, smear me → obstruction.
call it “private” → it’s public crime with your goddamnn fingerprints.

so?

⚖️ 18 u.s.c. § 2 — aiding & abetting.
⚖️ 18 u.s.c. § 3 — accessory after the fact.
⚖️ 18 u.s.c. § 1343 — wire fraud (digital money/paperwork).
⚖️ dv crimes — strangulation, assault, stalking, coercive control, economic abuse.
⚖️ civil claims — negligent supervision, fraud, iied, conspiracy,

wrongful fucking death for the kid if her mom doesn’t make it.

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receipts the bench will give a shit about:

✘ notice. you were told. repeatedly.
✘ benefit. he got money, cover, logistics.
✘ act. you did something that helped him offend or evade.
✘ nexus. your help tied to our harm.

yo.
that’s the fucking four-square you can’t duck.

#translation

if you helped him,
✘ you helped it.
money moved = ✘ help.
transport given = ✘ help.
lying to cover = ✘ help.
“don’t get me involved”
while sending him cash = ✘ involved.
“two sides of the story” = ✘ accessory vibes.
lol, please,
don’t play dumb.
for real,
play the fucking lotto
if you wanna gamble.
not dice on my fucking life.

⚀ ⚁ ⚂ ⚃ ⚄ ⚅

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#the math

(aka: how enabling fuels abuse)

→ inputs you fed him
cash + couch + car + power + cover

💸💸💸💸💸💸💸💸

→ outputs i’m forced to eat
debt + danger + downtime + doubt + delayed justice

minus (💸💸💸💸💸💸💸💸)

→ equation you keep pretending isn’t real
your dollar in his pocket = a dollar i don’t have for utilities, food, lawyer, safety

• an hour i lose to fix what you financed 💸

• one more day he’s free to escalate 💸

→ line items (plug your numbers, my guy):
bond you posted + flights you bought + ubers you covered + facts you lied about + car you spotted
– child support paid (lol) – diapers he bought (lol) – bills he covered (lol) – massive debts he left (lol)
= the gap i carry while you pretend:

you can’t see that
he obviously
kicked my ass
at 9 months pregnant.

🤰🥊💥💀💰💰

lmao, delusional bullshit.

→ time is currency too:
every “quick favor” you ran for him = hours i spent calling courts, pharmacies, daycares, shelters
while holding a baby and a stack of past-due fucking bills.
the exchange rate is brutal: your 10 minutes of ‘help’ buys him 10 more hours to evade and abuse.

→ risk multiplier (no bullshit, just facts we all fucking know):
pregnancy + strangulation history + access to cash + a goddamn cheering section
= spike in lethality.
you kept the spike.

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#ignorance shit audit (stop fronting)

did you hear “she filed a restraining order”?
did you see bruises? hospital wristbands? police cards on the counter?
did you know about the warrant? the bond? the court dates?
did he stay on your couch “just for a bit”?
did you text “you good?” while zelling your buddy $200?
did you tell me “it’s not that serious,” “it’s between y’all,” “she’s a liar”?
congrats—you passed the threshold. knowledge + assistance = you’re in it.

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#the usual suspects: moms, coworkers, desperate females, firms, & goddamn cowards

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→ the mommy 🏆
i said pills.
i said stolen money.
i said fucking violence.
i showed her goddamn pictures.
you fucking shrugged until the warrant—
then suddenly you care.
to protect him, not us.
that’s not confusion. that’s convenient.

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→ the co-worker 🏆
you had a license and a pulse.
fiduciary duties aren’t a goddamn suggestion.
you funneled him money on the low and pushed paperwork while i was in crisis.
two policies vanished. fucking shocker.
stop pretending venmo is a confessional. it’s a receipt.

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→ the aunties & distant fam 🏆
you openly lurked my stories.
typed “she’s fine” while i posted pregnancy black eyes.
sent him cash.
ate up his bullshit.
while never giving a single shit,
about this actual child.
nah. you’re logistics.

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→ the fucking firm 🏆
you gave him a little desk, a title, and a pipeline.
you ignored the disclosures.
you let the conflict eat shit.
if i died, you’d be in court calling it a tragedy.
save it.

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#how it plays out (cause → effect → body count)

you pay his bond → he’s sidesteps fucking reality.
you float his rent → he skips child support.
you buy his flights → he violates, then “restarts” somewhere adorable.
you co-sign his narrative → cops and courts second-guess me.
you hide his location, his car, his phone → i look “dramatic” while he conspires.
repeat until someone’s obituary “has no cause listed.”

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#what you call love, i call aiding and abetting

cash is complicity.
couch is harboring.
“she’s crazy” is smear tactic.
your silence is supply chain.
that’s aiding & abetting.

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for the fucking record

i carried the debt. the bills. the child. the threats.
he re-enrolled in school with defrauded money.
promised transfers for our kid that never came.
meanwhile you wired him help and called me crazy.
i delivered a baby with two black eyes.
you’re still making goddamn excuses.

😑😐😑

the fuck?

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relief sought ✨

charge the helpers.
prosecute the firms.
subpoena the phones. the venmos. the imessages. the onboarding logs.
depose the mommys, the aunties, the “only coworkers.”
freeze the money. void the shitty paperwork. claw it the fuck back.
name them in the fucking caption, not just the goddamn footnote.

✨ that’s how you fucking end dv. ✨

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#jersey closing arguments (for the inhabitants in the stalker section)

you knew.
you liked the version of him
that looks clean, but
that cost me blood.
and every dollar
you laundered through “helping”
became another inch
of fucking rope
around my throat
and our life.

so here’s the new policy:
if you fund it, you own it.
if you hide it, you’re fucking in it.
if you witness it and silence me,
you chose a fucking side. ✨

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every abuser has a supply chain.
you kept it operating.

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you are not fucking bystanders.
you are goddamn accessories.

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squad pic: 🧙‍♀️🐸🤡👹🧟‍♂️